i love laughing about the friend zone because it’s so dumb like you know most of those dudes aren’t even IN the “friend zone” they’re in the “ugh god not this dude again” zone
In philosophy we learnt about paradigms, and about how a paradigm exists until a new one replaces it or, slowly, enough flaws are discovered that the paradigm can no longer practically exist. One theorist said that within the community where a paradigm is held, like the science community or the group of people debating whether the universe is heliocentric or geocentric, progress is made by a huge amount of back-and-forwards-ing, crossing already covered paths and eventually finding your way out the end.
From outside the community, onlookers don’t see the chaos going on, and only see the progress. That the universe is heliocentric, for example is just a given, or a discovery most people look upon as a natural digression, rather than the shitstorm fight it was to even consider the idea.
I think that paradigms are just like people. We stay the same unless we decide to change or slowly enough flaws are picked out that we have to change what we’re doing. We also all look upon each other from outside our communities of one, and we don’t see the turmoil going on inside those minds. Only the progress made and the smiles on the outside.
I really just thing that we should keep this in mind when we’re looking at the mess of our own paradigms. No one else is anywhere near as good as they seem, and we’re all just tricking ourselves.
“How was your day?”
“Text me when you get home so I know you’re safe”
“How are you?”
“I hope you’re feeling better”
“Have a good day today!”
“I miss you”
“Can you come over?”
“Can I come over?”
“Can I see you?”
“Can I call you?”
“Want something to drink?”
“Watch your step”
“Let’s watch a movie”
“What are you up to?”
“How is your day so far?”
“It will be okay”
“I’m here for you”
“Do you need anything?”
“Are you hungry?”
“I just wanted to hear your voice”
“You just made my day”
You don’t have to hear “I Love You” to know that someone does. Listen carefully. People speak from the heart more often than you think."
- Always say yes to seeing friends
- Eat breakfast every day
- Recognize that positive change rarely happens overnight
- Accept the fuck-ups, but try not to let them happen again
- There is a song to remedy every situation on the planet
- Appreciate the people in your life
- Look for the good in everything
- Try new things and try them often
- Treat yourself as well as you treat others
He compared me to goon,
By saying it was the ‘divine goddess of drinks’,
‘The Phoebe of my alcohol’
It was the strangest compliment I’ve ever received.
Classic. Just when I least need it, new interest comes along.
There’s this shitty thing that happens when you learn about the reality of racism, sexism and misogyny. You start to hear it from the mouths of your parents, grandparents, friends and siblings and you can’t ignore it anymore but you’ll see how many of them will ignore you when you speak out about it.